2016 is two weeks old... so how are you doing on your goals?
The number of people who give up on their resolutions is rather discouraging. The odds are definitely not in favor of those who actually want success! After listening to a several different talks on goal setting, I knew one thing for sure: simply saying "I want to do better in __, __, and __" was not going to work.
I'll admit, I'm not exactly where I wanted to be in my progress at the two week mark. Actually, I haven't even managed to type my goals into the proper format yet. But what I have done is started on at least a couple of things, and most importantly, I'm doing my bi-weekly evaluation on myself.
I started using a planning system that I really like. It doesn't cover everything, but it at least gets me started.
I've been pretty faithful in starting my days with this, but I'm noticing a trend. Things are getting carried from one day's to-do list to the next... to the next... to the next... So the way I'm changing things to handle that is to ask myself, what is it about this thing that is keeping me from getting it done? Is it too big and broad? Overwhelming? Distasteful? Just not important? Is it something I really need to get done?
For example, one of the things that has been floating from day to day is "organize finances." I changed it to "write down due dates and amounts for bills" but even that is getting carried over. Part of the problem is the Mechanic and I were supposed to have a budget meeting together to hammer out most of the details. Instead, our baby sitter ended up in the ER, we ended up with extra kids, our truck ended up sliding into a utility pole, and now here we are a week later, still no budget meeting with a totaled truck.
Dealing with finances is also overwhelming to me. Anytime I start working on finances, it seems to eat time worse than Facebook. I get no laundry done, dinner doesn't get cooked, and I get a tremendous stress headache. So I avoid dealing with it. Not smart.
For this next week, I'm going to try a different technique. I'm going to put a time limit on the financial to-do bullet point. Spend 30 minutes working on a bill calendar. In addition... after that 30 minutes, I'm going to make myself a milkshake. I've been craving a milkshake, and while that doesn't fit with my goal to reduce sugar, it's more important right now for me to deal with our finances.
I think, by putting a time limit on it, it won't be so overwhelming. Just 30 minutes. By connecting a reward with it, I'm more likely to actually do it. And, that means I'll start. Forward motion tends to cause more forward motion. It's just getting out of that "stuck" mode that's the problem.