Monday, August 13, 2012

One month from today I'll be welcoming my second baby girl into the bright world.  For now, though, she's content to hiccup inside of me.  This also means in a month and a half my first baby girl will be turning one.  Wow.  It's hard for me to believe... seems like just yesterday she was a newborn bundled up in blankets, blinking while I tried my best to get her to look at me.  Now I walk in her room and she stands up and beams at me.

Anyway, enough teary-eyed mother talk, and on to the subject I've been wanting to write about.  Humility.  It's come up several times recently, in the sermon Sunday as well as in C.S. Lewis' Mere Christianity which I recently read for the first time.  What worries me is that Lewis pointed out that the more prideful we are, the more it bothers us in others.  So the fact that this particular problem rubs me the wrong way makes me think that there's probably something that I'm being too prideful about.  Maybe I'm prideful that I've rejected the "homeschooling is the greatest" idea.

And I just leaked it: homeschooling and pride is my subject of the day.  I've noticed it repeatedly, especially since Ladybug was born.    People that I have thought of as good Christians, as people that were worthy of being admired, have this huge "we're better than others" sign plastered on their heads concerning their choice of schooling.  They seem to think that home schooled people are better than anyone else.  They are less likely to brag about their status as home schooling parents; after all, that would obviously be too prideful.  But they seem to see nothing wrong with making comments like "if they employed home schoolers those kind of mistakes wouldn't be made."

I wouldn't mind these comments nearly as much, I suppose, if they were made in private, at a home school group meeting, or between friends who were both home schooled or home school their own children.  But if you're in a situation where you don't know the full background of everyone in the room, or if you're on a Facebook wall, you are risking offending people.  And while saying "homosexuality is wrong" will offend people, that is a pretty clear Biblical mandate.  Home schooling, on the other hand, is (newsflash here!) not exactly commanded in Scripture.  So unless you know every single person on my friend list, and know that every one of them is linked to homeschooling somehow (which is most certainly not true), you shouldn't be making those kind of comments on my public wall.

When the particular comment that brought this tirade to mind was made, I was torn between ignoring it and deleting it from my wall. My fear was that deleting it would offend the person who made it. But, it became a matter of sheer numbers.  By leaving it up, I was risking offending multiple people who do not home school.  By deleting it, I might offend one person.  I chose the lesser number.  But folks, don't put me in that position.  Don't make me choose to offend someone.  Think about what you're saying.  Walk the talk, as some modern churches would put it.  

(And btw, I've noticed the same problem with some stay-at-home moms, especially those that home school.  The last time someone made a comment about that I wrote a note explaining why I was staying at home and tried to make sure that everyone realized I was not better than anyone else because I had chosen to stay at home.)