Friday, December 30, 2011
Friday, December 16, 2011
Saturday, December 3, 2011
Monday, November 21, 2011
- Healthy, beautiful, baby girl: This time last year I wasn't even imagining I'd be sitting here bouncing Ladybug on my lap; for that matter, I was still on prevent-a-baby meds! My, how life can change in a year!
- A wonderful husband: He has put up with a lot in the last year. Just read "The Dude's Guide" to get an idea.
- Awesome in-laws: Everything from loaning cars to helping with barf bags.
- Two fuzzy tail-wagging critters: They provide laughs and teach patience.
- A running vehicle: One is better than none.
- Understanding landlords: I can feel free to beg them not to cash the rent check just yet...
- Insurance: Babies cost $16,000. That doesn't include what it cost to create the exit and then close it back up!
Tuesday, November 15, 2011
From Michael Shannon's article on insidenova.com
"For those in two-income households who have been wondering what the long-term effects of parking children in daycare would be, the results are in and the news is not good.
Quite a few members of the daycare generation are currently occupying Obamavilles in New York City, Washington, Oakland and points in between. This is a natural outcome of society's reliance on strangers to raise our kids.
The daycare generation's formative years led them to become accustomed to large, mostly benevolent third-party organizations that dried their tears, filled their tummies and enforced the rules for sharing.
Inside this primary colors utopia the daycare generation finger-painted signs, beat on the furniture, sang songs and it was absolutely free! At snack time Juanita never charged little Belgium or Saskatchewan for the goldfish or juice boxes.
It's only natural, now that the daycare generation no longer depends on Kinder-Care, that they turn to the largest organization of all and ask Uncle Sam to make everything all better."
As a mother who will be placing her child in day care in less than two weeks, I find this offensive for two reasons. One is the assumption that I am relying on strangers to raise my kid. I will be raising my child. I call upon others to assist me. I will be disciplining and training at home, in the car, in the store, and as we walk into day care. I will be receiving reports of my child's behavior, and when my child is old enough to remember what they did wrong they will have repercussions at home. I will be giving suggestions for how to discipline my child. And the people caring for my child will not be strangers after a short period of time, any more than the Sunday School teacher in a large church is a stranger.
Second is the assumption that the Occupy movement is a natural response to day care. No, the Occupy movement is a natural response to the parenting that occurred, or in this case, did not occur. A two year old can be expected to clean up his room whether he's in day care or not. A quality day care will assist in training children to clean up after themselves. Yes, my child will be in daycare 50 hours a week. There are 168 hours in a week. That means I'm with her 2/3rds of the time. That's a majority, if my math skills are still intact. That's when I train my child, and if I can't make an impression on her in that amount of time, 50 more hours probably won't help either.
The other problem with this "natural response" idea is that it assumes the mentality for these kids was set by the time they were five years old. What about the school systems? The kids spent 13 years in school, but I see no criticism of parents handing their kids off to strangers in school. Even if they are placed in day care as infants, they are in the school system three times as long as they are in day care. And let's be honest. For an infant, things are free. I'm going to guess that things remain "free" at least until the kid becomes able to crawl. And even then, they don't "earn" their milk by putting their toys away. What parent (unless they follow the Pearl's system) is going to deprive their young child of food because they didn't put their toys away? You make it a game, so that it's fun to clean up. Especially in the first year, what they learn is that their needs are met. For free. Because someone loves them. I do not believe I am raising a child fit for Occupy camps by picking her up and changing her diaper when she cries. When she's three and I help her clean up when she has an accident, I'm not going to make her do something to pay me for my service. But I will train her to be a productive member of the family. That's what's missing in children these days. It's parents training. I'm a firm believer that those parents who don't parent when their child is in day care, wouldn't parent if their child wasn't in day care, and the result would have been the same if not worse.
I'll get off my soapbox now...
Sunday, November 13, 2011
Wednesday, November 9, 2011
Sunday, November 6, 2011
Thursday, November 3, 2011
Monday, October 31, 2011
Boppy: Great for feeding, relieving tired arms when sleeping on the couch, and for supervised naps!
Snug aBunny Cradle Swing: One of the few places I can put her after she eats. Ours has some strange additions to the mobile but she likes watching their shiny ends.
- Graco Travel System: Most important part of being a new mom: get out and walk!
Friday, October 28, 2011
- Pregnancy wedge: Awesome for holding that belly up and the only way I could sleep
- Palmer's itch spray: Only used it for the last couple of months, but it kept me from clawing
- Palmer's stretch mark cream: I'm not sure it works, but it feels good to at least try
- Tums: I kept a bottle on the night stand, one on my desk at work, and another in the car for 7 months. And my baby's got the hair to show for it!
- Maternity support belt: Instant relief of back pain in the second trimester
- Pedal Extenders: couldn't have driven past ~6 months without them.
- Dude's Guide: Gave much more realistic information than What to Expect
- Kroger Prenatal Vitamins: easy on the stomach, small and coated enough to swallow, and reasonably priced.
- Senna-S, Colace, and Benefiber: 'nuff said
- Smoothies: solution to the weight loss from morning sickness
- Slip-on tennis shoes: The only option for work after my feet started swelling and I couldn't reach my feet to tie laces.
- Teva sandles: The only option when I couldn't cram my swollen feet into the slip-ons.
- Humor, patience, and an empty bathroom
Thursday, October 27, 2011
My baby girl is one month old. I simply can't believe how time has flown, while it still feels like she's been a part of our lives forever. Motherhood is incredible, and exhausting, and frustrating, and one of the most wonderful things ever.
Sunday, October 23, 2011
- You're never late.
- No one ever sits in your pew, except the dog, who can be pushed out of it.
- You don't miss any points if you have to use the restroom; that's what pause is for.
- You can wear your pj's.
- You can breastfeed or pump without being discreet.
- Your screaming child disturbs no one. That's what the volume is for.
- When a poop blowout occurs, you can use the handy pause button again.
- When your coffee gets cold, yep... love that pause button!
- When you have a mommy-brain moment and can't for the life of you find Psalms... pause button to the rescue!
Friday, October 21, 2011
Monday, October 17, 2011
I've been pain med free for over ten days, had a good nap this afternoon, and just returned from a long walk. Therefore, my brain actually feels up to writing something halfway coherent!
- C-sections are awesome. Spinals with additional morphine are even more awesome, and worth the insane itching that follows.
- Ladybug's first cry was one of the most incredible moments of my life, surpassed possibly only by the Guardian's proposal, and maybe our first kiss and our wedding kiss (two separate kisses)
- Little girl diaper changes can be about as exciting as boy's; amazing how far poop can be squirted!
- Showers are wonderful sanity savers.
- Babies are black holes of time. You blink and it's 2pm, you've not had a shower or eaten breakfast, but you're on your 10th diaper and 4th bottle.
- Pumping is not as simple as slapping the things on your boobs and turning it on.
- Despite the recent article dispersed to my church, I firmly believe I love my child just as much as the mother who went through a vaginal birth. I did not need the natural hormonal rush, nor did I need the hormones in the IV, to make me love my child. That article will probably be given its own post later.
- Some babies like baths. Mine does, and she also likes back rubs and having her hair brushed.
- My daughter is her daddy's girl. She is a natural evening shifter...
- The swelling does eventually go away. The tears slow as well. The fat and stretch marks... well... those are sticking around a bit longer.